Grief

by Jecuss Kuntarkis

May the love of creation be upon and within all human beings, and may each of you become living consciousness. May the human ego be dissolved back into the nothingness from which it was self created.

The lessons of life can be very hard and full of pain if awareness is not a part of your existence. Pain and misery are a part of learning to let go of the past, but many hold onto the past, never letting go, and they make it a part of their present and allow it to become their future. This is not living. This is existing in a world of fear and fear is a trace of ego. Lessons of life are meant to be learnt and then to be let go of in order to gain a better understanding of life’s purpose.

Grief is a lesson all human beings must experience; to learn, to let go and to move on. Every human being has experienced some form of grief, be it a broken relationship, the death of a loved one, losing an object of sentimental value, even leaving an enjoyable job.

All of these experiences can and do leave one feeling as if there is an empty void within them, and wondering “What next?”. That emptiness is a part of grief, a very necessary part of the healing that takes place, enabling you to grow, let go and move forward. Grief is a process, and at the heart of that process lie a number of primitive expressions of emotion; fear – who/what can I turn to now to justify my existence, I am scared of being alone; anger – how could they have done this to me; sorrow and self pity – I am nothing without them, my life seems meaningless, I feel lost and useless; and guilt – I should have been a better person, perhaps there is more I could have done.

Physical life is a transient state of being. It is constantly changing, on the move and in a state of flux. To try to prevent change and growth is unnatural and stifling to your own personal evolution. Human beings who are experiencing grief need to understand one never loses anyone, and that no one ever ‘dies’. Death is a transformation, so it is of great importance for a human being to gain the knowledge and understanding of why the physical body exists and dies. It may be a well worn cliché but knowledge truly is the key to freedom, freedom from a life of fear and ignorance following a human being from one incarnation to the next.

If you were especially close to someone who had physically died, then you are most likely of the same energies as that person, meaning that you as a spirit come from the same Soul. In the case of someone deceased, their energies often join back (when the moment is right) with other energies from the same Soul. This usually occurs when the grieving process for that one is completed.

Letting go does not mean you do not care. Letting go means that you have realised you cannot live in the past continually. Letting go means that you love yourself, and the one you have grieved over, enough to allow each other to grow and progress in your respective existences.

How long should one grieve? There is no answer to that question. Perhaps the best advice is when one decides to let go of fear and guilt, and to stop using grief as an excuse to punish oneself and others. Let go of the past with unconditional love and stop making the past your present and future.

Love yourself and the one you are grieving for, and know you are worthy of happiness, that you no longer need to suffer. Each human being is 100% responsible for every action that is self created in their life, be it negative or positive, therefore one needs to stop blaming others for the way they feel, to stop feeling sorry for oneself and let go of the belief they have been hard done by.

Prior to incarnating, each human being has chosen the experiences and situations they will have in their life, to learn and give them a better understanding of love, compassion, how to reason, and personal responsibility, so in turn they may help others consciously evolve as human beings.

Only the individual can heal their own pain. You are the power because only you the individual can decide when it is the moment to get on with your human life. Every time you turn to someone for help you give away your responsibility. That is not to say you should not seek advice to consider how to move forward, but remember in the end it always comes down to your decision, and others should not be blamed if their advice was not helpful. Do not blame someone else if their advice was not helpful; blame yourself because you chose to follow their advice. You may also need to be aware of individuals who claim to be able to help you heal, or tell your future, when all they may be doing is manipulating your emotions and taking advantage of your grief.

To a large extent all human beings are on their own journey of learning, forgiving and letting go of the past. Karma, whether negative or positive, has a purpose for all human beings. Karma is a created action by all humans and must be brought into balance. The lessons of human life are created by the Soul to facilitate each human being’s learning and letting go of karmic debts.

Grief is a part of the lessons of human life. If you allow the natural process of the lesson to progress and allow yourself to move on, a positive imprint is created within your life, your awareness and consciousness. It gives you a deeper understanding of the experience no matter what it may be.

You may grieve for a day, a month, a year, or even a lifetime. It is your choice and your right as a human being how long you grieve. However, it must be remembered, life does go on and everything you experience, no matter what it may be, is only a lesson in the many lives you have lived and are yet to live. To believe in spirit world is to believe nothing ever dies, but simply transforms to another vibration. Take for example all the human beings who were killed in your second World War. Most of these individuals have reincarnated and are living another human life at this moment.

Overcoming grief gives you the power, courage and strength to accept new ideas and lessons that you will experience throughout your life. Every time you learn a lesson, whatever it may be, you become stronger within yourself. You learn to handle life more adeptly. Take the time to find the power of unconditional love within yourself and you will find an understanding of who you are. Through this understanding you will find truth and truth will lead you to finding yourself – who you are, what you are, why you are learning certain lessons, including the lesson of grief.

Grief is like a belief system. It places limitations upon you by giving you a set of rules to live by, such as, if you stop grieving over someone then you must not have really loved them, therefore you will not let go of the pain so you can keep proving your everlasting love. To think like this is to limit yourself. By keeping your mind closed you prevent inner growth. You make yourself stand still and become fearful of the future and what it may bring. It becomes easier to live in pain than to look forward to unlimited potential of the unknown.

You further prevent emotional growth by physically clouding your perception through alcohol, cigarettes, refined and junk foods, drugs, and constant replaying of negative emotions. You clog your physical body and interfere with its physical functioning. A poorly functioning body affects the psyche, and over period of time creates human disease. When the mind is closed it becomes one of scepticism. A closed mind always criticises something before it understands it. A closed mind is clouded with fear and ignorance, feeling threatened by anything new or different that may challenge one’s present point of view. Grieving can be much the same. You can get stuck in one place, fearing to move forward.

When you allow the natural healing process of letting go, and you open your heart and mind to experiencing an existence free from fear, guilt or self pity, you can begin learning self love and acceptance, and you will feel joy towards your past experiences, without having to rely on them to get you through the next twenty years of your present incarnation as human being.

Let go of the past with love, bravely step forward into the brightness of the unknown, and allow yourself to grow. Grief is simply a lesson of life, a part of karma. Every human being throughout human history has created karma over and over again. Karma is an opportunity to learn, to grow, to let go of and to see the past as a memory, an experience that is neither negative nor positive.

Grief is an experience. See it for what it is, without emotion. Step back long enough to become the observer of your emotion. Always allow yourself to grieve and when the moment comes, let go, forgive yourself, love your memories for they will always be in your heart, and move on. Love from the heart will free you from self imposed pain and misery.

Be blessed in unconditional love always.